The Father's Role In Home Education
By: Dick Karman

What kind of role do you play in your home school?

Do you take care of discipline? Do you advise on curriculum matters? Do you declare school holidays? All of these things are important, but all of them are often shuffled off to your wife when you aren’t available.

You say, “I lead by example. I make sure that the family attends church; focuses on good character; and knows what a good family is all about.” I have no doubt that you do all of those things. Further I would hope that you are an example to your children of a man who knows the value of God’s word. You study and read nearly every day. Many home educating fathers are also officers in their church; scoutmasters; AWANA leaders; or Bible Quiz masters (or at least coach). These are all good works, and all the while you war against fleshly lusts (1 Peter 2:11-12 ) I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.

By your example your sons and daughters will learn the ways of righteousness. (Proverbs 12:28) In the way of righteousness is life; and in the pathway thereof there is no death.

You might even say, that as the head of home school household, you have combated the ways of the world and may be just a little notch above the folks who have their children in a classroom. But, of course, you wouldn’t say that, because you also picture yourself as being fairly humble and modest.

There may be only one chink in the armor of godliness. It is probably so small that others don’t notice it. It may seem so inconsequential that you believe that your children don’t see it. (Galatians 6:7) Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap. Your children will see far more of your flaws than you ever expect.

Where is this spot of tarnish on an otherwise spotless facade? This may only apply to a few, but you know who you are. Fathers, do you love your wives as Christ loved the church? (Ephesians 5:25)

How do you show her that you love her? Do you take time every day to tell her how special she is to you? Do you set aside your needs to take care of hers? When was the last time you took a quiet moment and prayed with her for your children. Do you pray for your wife?

Love to your wife may not mean expensive dinners out. Love may mean a peaceful walk in the rain, or a few minutes in front of the fire on a winter evening. Love may mean doing a little cooking and keeping the kids from time to time so that she can have some shopping time to herself. Give her a day off. Take a day from work and teach the children so that she can have a break.

Hopefully, you know your wife better than anyone else. Do the things that are meaningful to her. Show her and every one around her how much you love her. It’s not the same for any two wives. You know how. Remember, you were caught being sweet to her just last mother’s day. Every day should be mother’s day.

When you take the time to love your wife, you are showing your sons how to be good husbands, and you are showing your daughters what they have to look forward to.

The most important thing that a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

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